Do you ever feel that you are stuck in a rut in dating? Or even stuck in a rut with your life? We can all from time to time, fall into a Groundhog Day lifestyle where we are aimlessly and mummy like going from day to day and week to week. When this happens, it effects all areas of our life – whether single or dating, being stuck in a rut is detrimental. In particular, it can have serious consequences if single because, we just lose interest and become negative. And that’s why girls, we need to change our dating tactics and date like one of the boys.
Men fantasise about having women hanging off each arm, so they fulfil this fantasy by multi-dating (seeing several girls at once). Men don’t go into a relationship thinking “this is the one”, instead they think “this is a fun way to spend the evening”. For a change of pace, I think we need to follow their examples. Keep expectations low and see different types of men before falling in love.
Variety is the spice of life and hanging out with a host of hotties will help you in a wealth of ways. Firstly, it’ll charge your confidence which means you’ll attract a host of even more potential partners and prevent yourself from focusing on just one. For example, if you’re sitting waiting on a text from the guy you saw on Friday night, you’ll be less likely to come across as desperate, needy and clingy because your mind will be now distracted by the guy from the gym that you’re about to go on a date with.
Do try and keep your dating diary simple. Never arrange two dates on the one evening. It’ll just lead to complications and confusion, especially after a few glasses of Pinot Grigio if you start telling the accountant how sexy you find his Garda uniform. Also, never take a date to the same bars – again it’ll just lead to confusion. If you become a success at the multiple dating, keep a simple little diary of where you went on the date, what you wore (just so you don’t show up the following week in the same outfit) and just some brief notes about the date.
Unless you’ve lied to your dates, there is no need for you to feel bad. Dating was designed to be commitment free. If it wasn’t, you’d be boyfriend and girlfriend after the first date. When you’re seeing several men, you are simply road testing them to see which one could last long term. When and if they dreaded conversation of “where are we going comes up” you’ll have to be honest and admit that you are not exclusive but enjoying the way things are going with that particular guy. If your men don’t ask, there is no need to say anything the likelihood is that they’re doing the same thing.
Once you’ve mastered the art of multi dating, it won’t take you long to find the one that fits the bill and make you want to ditch the others. But, once you are exclusively dating – DO NOT RETREAT TO YOUR OLD WAYS. Think back to when you were dating – your time was limited – you had a life – and you weren’t needy. So concentrate on having fun – relax, enjoy and see what happens.